A question has been asked....

My last blog raised a comment/question from SeaRabbit:

"I would like to ask you a question about the 'letting slip the D/s too much'...I noticed in many blogs that it is often the Dom that seems to have that kind of 'problem'... I know in your case, you have been sick and that doesn't help.... but what else could causes that kind of disinterest? "

I am honoured that SeaRabbit has asked Me to discuss this issue, although I am no expert on this subject but from time to time I have lived through it and most likely will go through it more over what time I have left on this earth ( no littleone, I am KNOT leaving yet ).
Of course one of the main reasons is medical and the list is too long to list, but a couple are Depression, ED and Stress just to mention.....

The next reason I have found is when a subbie has been pushing buttons and the Dom has decided to let them go hoping the subbie will get the point but then he says/thinks enough is enough and punishment or retraining is required but this can take awhile....

Another reason the Dom feels that His actions are knot " turning on " His sub so He thinks something is wrong, but is too " male " to find out what she is thinking about this, so He decides why do anything more other than a flogging or two.....

Sometimes He aftering seeing another Dom and sub couple doing things He has wanted to do, but it is a hard limit to Him or to His sub and wonders if it will ever happen or can ever happen.....

A simple answer is, He is just tried of being the Master and needs a break if the D/s is more of a game then a true 24/7 lifestyle.

I am sure there are more reasons SeaRabbit and I would be happy if other Doms would leave Me comments as I feel that D/s is no game but I do realise that it is a very hard thing to live daily.

The most important thing I can say at this point If there is a problem then talk it over with each other until you both are happy SeaRabbit but you have O/our email addresses do drop U/us a line and if you Master wishes to contact Me tell Him He is most welcome....

Things have been discussed....

Tonight was the first night that I have been with littleone and after supper I thought it was time to use one of the new toys I purchased while I was at the weekend camp. I was warned by Master Calvin to take it easy the first time with the white Teflon paddle and he was correct! As you can see by the picture it marked littleone's ass with only a few medium strokes , finally I do think W/we have found the toy W/we have been looking for, THANKS CAL!!

After a sound but short paddling and some tears shed, I make littleone sit up and I told her if she ever had the heart shaped dog tag off again ( with the exception of our trilogy ) it would never go back on again, she got the point. I honestly hope I never see her with it off ever again as I would hate to follow through with My promise....

I also want to thank everyone that thoughtfully commented on My last blog, especially Master Calvin and His slave june I greatly appreciate very much.

Since that great weekend camp littleone has requested that W/we talk about taking O/our BDSM to the next level and I have agreed to sit down to negotiate this over this weekend. I know that the D/s must be on the top of the list, since I feel I have let it slip too much and has to be increased since I have been noticing littleone " steping in " where she should be more respectful ( ie: getting upset when I butt in while she is talking ).

How can a little thing mean so much????

For the past five days My littleone hasn't worn her heart shaped dog tag ( see above ) and it has Me pissed, upset and thinking....

I could and would accept the first day since she was heading out to the Doctor's office but since then she has knot worn it, even when I have pointed out to her it wasn't there... Even though her Doctor is a cool MD, W/we have decided to keep the BDSM side out of the office for now. I must say that I never thought of it ( until now ) but the tag can be turned around and show a blank side, so to the Non BDSM side can be hidden yet at the same time to her it maintains her ownership to Me ....

Now for part of the five days, W/we were away at a BDSM camp out of the country so she couldn't wear it since she left it behind at home. Now I am knot sure if she had worn it to the camp anyone would have noticed it on her or knot, but I noticed it was not on and at a BDSM event too....

I really don't know what to do? To Me this little tag ( btw, the words on it read: morningstar owned by Sir ) says it all, she is Mine until I release her or she dies.... Does this mean My littleone is tired of being collared, owned or just fed up with this old Dom that makes mistakes?? I really don't know as to Me there is NO reason for her not to wear this tag everywhere, as you can see it doesn't really show to the Vanilla world anything but a pink heart and she can tell anyone that asks it was a special meaning gift from her Boyfriend...

How can I punish her if she no longer wants to wear it and announce to the BDSM world that she is proudly owned? or what punishment would be correct if I did decided to punish her for this?

Honestly, I just don't know anymore. I know I don't give her as many sessions as she wants & desires. I know I can't give her the 24/7 D/s she wants.

I just don't know anymore......