It has been awhile since I have done a blog even though one has been at the back of My mind for a couple of weeks....
I have been busy dealing with a subbie that has been rebelling for the past couple of weeks and I have been trying hard to find the correct way to handle the problem.... Some the problem has been in My mind that subbie and to a certain point Myself had become too vanilla... littleone of course doesn't need any vanilla ( or almost any ) in her life with Me....
In trying to deal with this mini rebellion I have noticed something while reading some other blogs and it seems I am knot the only Dom to be going though this rebellion phase... I noticed that some fellow Doms have been handling this problem with a stern hand and whip, others with a kind heart and caring.... The one thing I have noticed that has come through is every Dom seems to end up having a good long hard session with his sub and that seems to have done the trick and the rebellion has been defeated...
So what can We learn from this observation, I honestly don't know completely but I think the only thing is a little rebellion is ok but anything more than must be handled quickly and firmly....
5 comments:
I beleive you are on the right track I would say from experience that no rebellion should be tolerated a bit of the brat is okay but when it comes to rebellion my advice squash it as soon as it rears its head.
Mr. Snake is a good vanilla squasher, eh?
Hi my first visit here. Found you through your 'little one' and just wanted to give you a sub perspective. (For the record I'm a switch lol) The rebellion phase is very common and at some or another usually during the first year or so of the relationship. Although it can be revisted later on. They've gotten past the 'super sub/slave' phase. They've gotten through the 'i now what's expected of me and do i really do anything phase' to progres onto the "rebellion" phase. It can be a couple of things. They are too comfortable (too vanilla) in the relationship, as you thought might be the issue, and want to re-establish those boundaries or they are having feelings of insecurity and are 'testing' where they stand in the relationship, course it can always be PMS lol. 'Testing' is something I do constantly with my Daddy. I spent my entire life without boundaries that I craved, as I was always the Dominant personality in every relationship and made my own rules, and I constantly feel the need to make sure they're still there. ;) So in a way I agree that a stern hand is needed so they know they can't get away with bratty behaviour, but I would also talk with them and find out if they are experiencing any of these issues. A good hard session for me can certainly re-establish those lines of who is the Dom and who is the sub and helps ground me, so that makes perfect sense that, that works. Forgive me all for such a long comment, I do tend to go on. lol
princess:
when i rebel.. it has absolutely NOTHING to do with pms.. haven't had that in years now... it does have a lot to do with feeling like i am left to twist in the wind... i feel Sir's mind is elsewhere.. busy with details of life and living.. i have never hidden the fact i AM high maintenance... and when i am not being maintained i tend to cough and sputter and stall..
and sometimes Sir just cares way too much.... and feels i am NOT up to "it".. health issues tend to fog up the screen a bit so that seeing down the road is a bit difficult... i am not made of fragile porcelin as i have told Him time and time again.. "i am one tough old bird"...
But we do seem to come through the vanilla / cranky / rebellion periods stronger than ever...... :)
morningstar (owned by Warren)
http://wtsubbie.blogspot.com/
Come to think of it, I think ALL us subbbies are really high maintenance. ;) It's a wonder any Doms get any rest between all our wants and needs. ::giggles::
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