subbies shouldn't be allowed to be ill..

See what happens when Dommes allow their subbies to be sick with a bad cold...This was the way the chicken breasts came out looking from the BBQ that I haven't had to use since I allow littleone to do all the cooking. I have forgotten just how to use the BBQ, although I do have another good excuse too, and that is a new and smaller BBQ that W/we purchased just a little while ago than I am use to.



All joking aside, My littleone is ill and it is drving her nuts knot being able to serve her Sir the way she needs to, wants to, has to. I even had to sadly cancel going to Le Château to wish an always late submissive of a nice Dom and seeing an old friend doing "his" again after a long time away from play... But if I had to make a choice betweeen staying at the Condo with My littleone or going to Le Château then is no question in MY mind where I am going to be, AT THE CONDO beside my ailling sub, just as I know she would/has been there for Me....

I do have a questions for the other Doms/Dommes out there when their submissives are sick, do you do stop the D/s lifestyle or do you continue just as normal? You see, My littleone loves/needs her D/s lifestyle, but I don't know if I should continue with it while she is ill. For an example over this weekend, I have wanted to paddle her ass hard both for fun and for maintaining the D/s rules.

W/we have just been invited to a party by a couple that W/we use to hang around with years ago but seem to have gone our different ways in what BDSM 24/7 lifestyle is to each of U/us. The problem is: W/we invited them to O/our swap gathering ( being held the day after their party ) a couples of weeks ago and the deadline for O/our RSVP deadline has past without a word from them. And just to add fuel to this problem My ex's sister has asked U/us to help her move back to the city on the same day as the invitation.... Honestly, at this time I have several thoughts going through this Dom mind of Mine, but I don't like any of them... I think I will just wait until the last min to give O/our answer.

Sir, proud owner of morningstar

Part-time Dom

Over the past couple of weeks I have felt like I was being a "part-time" Dom to my littleone and that was confusing her and to Myself...

I noticed that some of My earlier training and " Rules to Live By " were no longer being followed to the way I wanted or planned for them to be done by littleone. I have thought long and hard about just who was at fault, Me or littleone? To this question I have to say on the most part it has been My fault. I have let the vanilla lifestyle move back in to littleone's life more than she should/needs to have. When I started training her almost 4 years ago I had made several rules but the MOST important one was that " Family, Work or Health " should/must always come first and I would/must have to back off, well now I must look at this rule again with different eyes.

In the area of " Family " for the most part everyone knows and accepts Me as her "Man" in her life even if some of them don't know that I am her Dom, therefore I will be more of her Dom now in family things....

In the area of " Work " well that one is going to have to stay the same for the most part, although I will have to step in if things don't change in Sept....

And in the area of " Health " I will be in her face for smoking ( stopping completely), weight ( I need to lose weight too ) and anything else that I feel needs to be handled.....

Even if I am knot there 24/7 like W/we both want to be, littleone is going to have to live like I am there all the time or there is going to be lots of punishments, and I am no longer going to except " but Sir " as an excuse from now on....

On a different note over the weekend W/we visited Il Bolero and I finally purchased a good set of cuffs so I don't worry anymore when littleone goes in sub space.



So, I do hope and pray with the new improved Sir my chattel, littleone, will be more happier with both her vanilla and BDSM life....

Sir, proud owner of morningstar

The BDSM God's talked to Me.....

Well this weekend started off with My mind in many places, but not where it should have been and that was with My littleone.....

It was something that she said a little while ago, " that her Sir wasn't there " and that hit Me right between the eyes and shook Me up big time. Where had I gone?, Where was I ? and Where was I going? rolled around My mind for days.... At one point I had even thought of telling littleone that I was cancelling the weekend, but I had newbie BDSM guests showing up for a mini-formal BDSM dinner and I didn't wish to do anything to stop their learning the BDSM lifestyle that I and littleone live.....

When I did arrive at the condo My mind frame was still going over those questions and what was I going to do?? Normally, when I arrive at the condo, if W/we don't have anywhere to go, I sit down and have littleone get Me a drink of something and I unwind from the traffic jam that I have just driven threw. This time wasn't much different although littleone started almost from the time she sat at My feet to tell Me about her problems at work. Usually I will sit back and let her go on about the problems, but with My thoughts racing around, I was only going to put up with only so much and then enough was enough... It was down to the dungeon and littleone was going to get a flogging....

I really didn't have a plan on what I was going to do or use on littleone but I knew in My mind I needed to get back to a position of " LORD and MASTER " over My property. In the past I have always thought of what equipment I was going to use and just how hard I was going to use it, but knot this time, this time was going to have to be very different in My mind or I was going to lose something that I had worked so hard to get and retain and that was My littleone. This time in My mind I was going to have to take TOTAL control and stop the session ONLY when I wanted to stop and knot when I felt littleone had had enough. I was going to hit long and hard something that I never normally do in that combination. So I started like usual placing her on the Andrew's Cross with a set of cuffs that I am getting fed up with and will have to plan a trip to Il Bolero or Northbound ( a couple of local fetish stores in the area ) to get the cuffs I really have always wanted. Once she was attached to the cross I looked at the wall of floggers, whips and paddles that W/we have collected over the past 4 years. Honestly, at this time I can't remember what toys I started with or even used but I do know that I used almost every " hard " toy that was on that wall. I basically didn't even get littleone a good " warm-up " that she is use to. I got down to the session and about half way ( 30 mins ) it hit ME.... I AM the one that is in charge and NOTHING that is going to be said or things that I do will change the fact that I am littleone's Sir and if she thinks I am knot there well so be it, that will be her problem not mind because when I am ready to act like " her " Sir then I will and SHE had better get use to these " non Sir " times. It is knot My actions that make Me Sir but rather what I feel in My mind and heart that makes Me Sir and since in My mind I am a 24/7 Sir even if I am knot around My training, tasks, wishes, wants and commands better ALWAYS be the only thing in littleone's submissive mind or I have lost the submissive that I have claimed as MINE!! God did I feel great and continued with the session until I was totally finished in mind and body...


W/we have spent sometime getting O/our little dungeon to a way that W/we can play in comfort and get full enjoyment out of it. Although I found out this weekend that this is going to be an ongoing project no matter if I feel it is finished to the way a private home dungeon can be. Here is a collage of some pictures I took after W/we redesigned it since now the " family " accepts littleone's " kink " and W/we can be more honest to our BDSM lifestyle.. I just guess I am going to have to use that bondage book I got " The Better Built Bondage Book " more often...

As for the rest of the weekend, well I see that My littleone has done a blog on it " Giving back " and don't wish to go over it again....

All I can say is that the BDSM Gods have shown Me the way and I learnt what I did during that Friday session was required and every Dominant should have the same feeling sometime during their rule....

Sir, proud owner of morningstar